"Competence and Capabilities = Confidence" Lolly Daskal

I hope you enjoyed this week’s show as much as I did with Lolly Daskal. She shared so many tips, tools, and strategies that we can implement into our life, whether it is in leadership or in our own relationships. Strategies that we can use to shorten the distance between our gap and our greatness. Here are my five favorite takeaways from this week's conversation with Lolly Daskal.

1. How much time you spend focusing on the greatness of those around you or do you tend to focus on their shortcomings? Lolly talked about the fact that we get to make a choice at every moment, as to whether we focus on our gaps or our greatness. While we are primed to focus on the negative can you notice how often your focus on your greatness and how much time you spend focusing on the things that you feel are a weakness? Then flip that around and notice how much time you spend focusing on the greatness of those around you or do you tend to focus on their shortcomings? How would your day change if you focused on more of the positive?
2. What you don’t own – owns you! – wow, I loved that moment. How true it is - that we tend to push aside the things that we don’t like about ourselves. But what that really does is give that part of you more power. What is one thing that you consider a flaw? For many years I saw my anxiety as a huge gap – now what if - instead of pushing that piece away inside a box, you made peace with it and accepted it as a part of who you are. The moment I acknowledged and accepted my anxiety – the power of my panic attacks almost disappeared. It’s time to own and love all of ourselves.
3. What would happen if you no longer compared yourself to anyone else? The imposter syndrome – how tricky it is as we always compare ourselves to those around us. Comparison is the thief of joy. What would happen if you no longer compared yourself to anyone else, and spent time working on your own inner greatness – use those around you for motivation and inspiration but and only compared yourself to your today versus your yesterday? Everyday, celebrate your uniqueness and do one thing, take one action to move yourself towards your greatness.
4. Competence + capabilities will give you the confidence you need. Lolly talked about confidence and her definition of what confidence is. Competence + capabilities will give you the confidence you need. Knowing what you are good at and knowing the areas of your skill set that may need sharpening and then taking the steps to research, learn and discover new material will help us not only strengthen your confidence but also expand your experiences within the world
5. How are your listening skills? Lolly talks about the idea of fixing versus listening. How are your listening skills? Over the next few days Can you practice being a fully engaged listener? Listening is just like a muscle and one that improves with practice. Like I said I thought I was an enthusiastic listener but I really was an impatient listener. Can you practice this week, listening to everyone and allowing them to finish their complete sentence? Then pause and respond to the actual conversation in front of you, versus anticipating how you are going to answer.

"What You Don't Own Owns You" Lolly Daskal

This week's episode is a crash course in greatness. Lolly Daskal talks about her new book The Leadership Gap and how we can use both our strengths and weaknesses to our favor. Lolly talks about her 30 years of experience that culminated in her creating RETHINK:

The Rebel, driven by confidence; and the Imposter, plagued by self-doubt.
The Explorer, fueled by intuition; and the Exploiter, master of manipulation.
The Truth Teller embraces candor; and the Deceiver, who creates suspicion.
The Hero embodies courage; and the Bystander, a coward if there ever were one.
The Inventor, brimming with integrity; and the Destroyer, is morally corrupt.
The Navigator, trusts and is trusted; and the Fixer, endlessly arrogant.
The Knight for whom loyalty is everything; coupled with the Mercenary, who is perpetually self- serving.

We dive into exploring the Rebel archetype and look at the Imposter Syndrome that so many of us struggle with daily. Lolly shares how difficult it is to ask for help and gives us tips and strategies to help us drop the fear and move into our greatness.

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Lolly Daskal is one of the most sought-after executive leadership coaches in the world. Her extensive cross-cultural expertise spans 14 countries, six languages and hundreds of companies.

As founder and CEO of Lead From Within, her proprietary leadership program is engineered to be a catalyst for leaders who want to enhance performance and make a meaningful difference in their companies, their lives, and the world. Based on a mix of modern philosophy, science, and nearly thirty years coaching top executives, Lolly’s perspective on leadership continues to break new ground and produce exceptional results. Of her many awards and accolades, Lolly was designated a
Top-50 Leadership and Management Expert by Inc.com
100 Great Leadership Speakers for Your Next by Inc. magazine.
Huffington Post honored Lolly with the title of The Most Inspiring Woman in the World. Her writing has appeared in HBR, Inc.com, Fast Company (Ask The Expert), Huffington Post, and Psychology Today, and others.

Lolly’s proprietary insights are the subject of her new book, The Leadership Gap: What Gets Between You and Your Greatness is released May 17th 2017.

"Your Kids Don't Need You To Be Perfect, They Need You To Be Present" Sara Haley

It was such a treat to talk to Sara Haley and really dive behind the scenes of the imperfect and messy perfect life as a mom, entrepreneur, and wife. I loved how candid and honest she was talking about both her hits and a couple of her misses.

Here are my five favorite takeaways from this week’s conversation with Sara Haley:

1. Is there something that you have been wanting and waiting to do that you have not done because it may not fit in with what you think you should do? Sara talked about how challenging it can be to be truly accepting of how we change and shift in life. What if you take that first step towards a dream that you have been putting on the side and move it center stage?

2. What is something that you are passionate about? Sara talks about the importance of keeping and cultivating the passion in your own life, something not related to your work or attached to someone else. What is it that you do, that contributes to your own happiness. Whether it is cooking, working out, blogging or journaling. Can you carve out more time to dive deeper, explore something that belongs to you?

3. How well do you take care of yourself? Sara talks about the challenge between being selfish and selfless. I think we all can agree that it can feel challenging to put ourselves first. Is there something you can do to refill your energy and inspiration tank? It is only when we feel full that we can be of service to our friends and family.

4. Who is in your choir? Sara talks about the importance of surrounding yourself with a tribe. A group of people who have similar needs, desires and likes. A group that you can reach out to when you need help, and a group that you can offer your help to – when someone else is struggling. A small but mighty group of friends who celebrate with you in the good times and share the burden in the not so good times.

5. How present are you? – do you find yourself with your phone in your hand through the majority of your day? Do you get anxious at the thought of being unplugged? Sara talked about the importance of being present. She reminded us that our children do not need us perfect they need us present. This can be said for our friends, family and work colleagues too. Could you spend a few hours or even one day a week unplugging from technology so you can plug into your heart center? Can you, "Be Here Now" with the people you are with.

"Be Who You Want To Be, Not Who You Think You Should Be" Sara Haley

In this show, Sara pulls back the curtain on motherhood. We talk about how she turned her pregnancy from one of passion and purpose into her business. Sara talks about filling a gap in the market, finding her niche and teaching to those who needed her message and point of view. I love that Sara is so candid and in this show, she openly shares both her hits and her mistakes. She is a truth teller with a heart of gold and discusses the importance of discovering and living from a place of who you are today versus showing up as who you used to be or as you think you should be.

We discuss Sara’s work with Reebok and how challenging it was to leave the company behind as she decided to follow her bliss. Sara talks about the importance of finding our own passion and purpose in addition to, and outside of life as mother, wife, and partner. We dive into the struggle of finding the balance between being selfish and selfless and how challenging it is to arrive somewhere in the middle.

I love Sara’s thoughts on balance and she shared her recent experience shooting 12 workouts while trying to juggle family, friends, and laundry. It really is so refreshing to have Sara reveal her backstory, in addition to her highlight reel. We talk about the importance of staying centered especially in a world with so much social media and Sara talks about the importance of finding other Mom’s who can celebrate you and lift you up when things get tough.

Sara mentions the different seasons of life and how there will be different seasons for different experiences throughout our journey. She reminds us that children do not need us to be perfect but they do need us to present. We discuss Sara’s morning ritual and with two children how she prepares for her day the night before. In this episode, we also chat about the importance of being organized and how to set ourselves up for success by preparation, which in turn, allows us to be ready for the opportunities ahead.

Sara reminds us of the importance of looking back to remember what we did well and celebrate the baby steps as we do the best we can. She reminds us to take it easy, listen to our bodies and to not compare your story to what you see in the media.

Sara shares some fantastic advice and tips on the importance of doing the correct core work during pregnancy – click here for some informative videos.

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Sara Haley is a simple mid-westerner at heart. It was her college sweetheart, Sean (now her husband of eleven years), who really encouraged her to go after her dreams. From dancing for the NBA to performing in commercials and off-Broadway shows, Sara is forever grateful for her ten years in New York City, especially because it eventually led to her fitness career. After teaching classes all over New York City and training celebrities, her big break was being recruited by Reebok, Int. This led to seven years of working as a Reebok Global Master Trainer, which included traveling all over the world to train other fitness trainers and instructors, doing media appearances, and creating and starring in numerous Reebok & Gaiam DVD workout programs.

Along her fitness journey, Sara became a prenatal and postnatal exercise specialist. Little did she know, she had found her niche. When she became pregnant with her oldest son, Landon, Sara saw a lack in challenging and inspiring workout options for pregnant women. After the birth of her first son, Sara went on to create Sweat UNLIMITED, an equipment free workout that includes 5, 15, 30, & 45-minute workouts for the busy parent or professional.  Her workout DVD brand is called The Daily Sweat®, as Sara believes that everyone should sweat a little (or a lot) each day to get what they want out of life.

During her postnatal recovery from her second son, Sara created her newest DVD, Expecting More®: The 4th Trimester Workout. Whether you had a baby six weeks, six months, or six years ago, the eight different workouts will help you increase your cardio endurance, tone your body, and most of all, focus on healing and strengthening the section of your body that was most affected by pregnancy – your core. This DVD as also received a National Parenting Publication Award.

Though fitness continues to be a big part of Sara’s life, motherhood inspired her to expand beyond fitness and share more of her life journey and struggles, which she features on her blog and hosts webisodes on her YouTube channel. She hopes as she continues to develop this new lifestyle brand, she can help others discover the best ways to stay healthy and happy in the constant pursuit of finding the work/life balance that we all seek to have.

Sara currently resides in Santa Monica, CA, with her husband and two children, enjoying the sunshine and a more carefree quality of life the west coast brings

"See The Humanity In Everyone" Molly Fox

Molly and I have known each other for over 25 years. She has been one of the biggest influences on my career and continues to inspire me.Here are my five favorite takeaways from this week’s conversation with Molly Fox

1. What sparks your creative juices? Molly talked about the hours we would all spend at her studio collaborating and creating - with no fear of failure or judgment – or competition. Who can you collaborate with to elevate your sense of play and curiosity and explore new and creative ideas?
2. What would you do if you knew it would not fail? Molly talked about trying and bombing, failing and getting up again. If fear simply represented Face Everything And Rise – what would you start today? Remember you can find useable data in both the hits and the misses.
3. How would your life change if you dropped the attachment and unhooked yourself from the past? I loved it when Molly said if she had hung out in the emotion of resentment after her club closed, that nobody would have won. Is there something or someone that you are holding resentment towards?  It is quite possible you would soar.
4. Are there opportunities in front of you that you may be missing because you are focusing on the barriers versus the possibilities? Molly said that for her to do creative and new things that she needed to look for the opportunities.  What would your life reveal to you if you became quiet, got curious and maybe even ask for help if need be?
5. What excites you? Where do you get your inspiration from? We can only inspire others to the degree we are inspired ourselves. Can you spend 30 minutes this weekend or next week and search for things that inspire you. It may be a book, a museum, something online or a conversation. What can you explore that will light up your curiosity, ignite your inspiration, and fire up your passion.

"Looking At It From What You Don't Have, Will Never Get You What You Want"  Molly Fox

What a treat to talk to my mentor and friend Molly Fox. In this show, we talk all things fitness. From Jane Fonda, LP’s, Leg Warmers and Disco and I go back to my first memory of meeting Molly, when I auditioned to teach for The Molly Fox Studios.

Molly and I discuss the freedom and the creative aspect that was available to us in the early 80’s. How we had the opportunity to create out of the box experiences and share ideas and inspiration without the fear of failure or getting fired. We go back to when Molly was six and her love of scarves and dancing. We talk about the Jane Fonda days and how we both (when I remembered) found our love of aerobics from this era of fitness. Molly shares her memories of San Francisco when in the days of disco and dance, music was a muse to the energy of the class environment.

We move into Molly’s journey to NYC and how she began teaching at The Actors Studio. As her following grew and the classroom became too small to hold the energy of the teacher and students, she opened her own space The Molly Fox Studio. This conversation talks about so many elements of fitness including how “low impact” evolved and all the magic and mystery of those days. We also dive deep and go back to the day she closed her doors and how difficult that was for her and her heart.

Molly and I talk about the many deaths we can have in our lifetime and how we can get ourselves up off our feet and into the world again. The piece of the conversation that I especially love is when we talk about resentment and forgiveness. I love this woman and I hope you love listening to this conversation as much as I enjoyed recording it.

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Molly Fox is a pioneer in the fitness industry. She began her career in 1979 at the Jane Fonda Workout in San Francisco and founded and ran The Molly Fox studios in NYC for the better part of 14 years. Molly then began working with Equinox Fitness Clubs where she still teaches today.

Molly has been teaching Yoga since 1994, her influences being Anusara, Iyengar, Jivamukti, and Ashtanga styles. She offers a dynamic, strong and focused Vinyasa Flow Class and her focus is on improving physical alignment and mobility.